How often do we see what we get when we meet someone?
You see me at work, you get to know a tiny part of me, a professional face. But is that me? Am I truly inspired and alive in that moment, fuelled by what I’m doing, burning with desire to do it because it’s truly “me”?
Or is this face just one I put on because I feel I have to? Because I feel that without it, people are confused, offended, uncertain; because people will judge and decide for me that I don’t belong (or that I do)?
It takes time to find your place, your people, and the essence of you. More time still, because we spend much of it trying to meet others’ expectations, often without realising.
You grow your hair for someone else, you make something to their liking, not yours, you give them your time when you really needed it elsewhere, perhaps you take on some of their characteristics around them too. Sometimes we are beautifully selfless, but remembering ourselves is imperative too.
Some of these selfless moments are, of course, you, because they are for you, full of authentic intention.
Be for others guided by you. Let your actions, for you and for others, come from good intention, compassion, love. Take notice of whether they resonate with your beliefs and your dreams. This is where you’ll find your most content self, in honesty.
If you feel you need to be or do something that doesn’t resonate with you, ask yourself – is it because you’re uncomfortable but you could grow from this doing? Or, is it simply not who you are?
If it’s a discomfort that could lead to change, well, dive in. If it doesn’t serve you, walk away and be okay with that. Be okay for choosing you first in that moment.