Mundanities | Norway

I am late again on the next Local piece (I interviewed someone who works in a museum!) I haven’t finished writing it because I started doing a lot of work, and consuming most of my days with its tasks, along with moving places twice.

I’ve been overseas for almost eight weeks, with seven of those spent in Norway. Only, in that time, I didn’t end up going to Lofoten as I would have liked, or Bergen as I had planned. It got too expensive and I have been erring on the side of caution money-wise. Now I’m at the airport about to head to Alicante, Spain, and I feel oddly as though I am about to enter ‘holiday mode’, feeling that I haven’t been ‘in it’ (along with an awareness for how obsurd that may sound).

But now, I’m not sure if I really ever began this journey to be on holidays. I’m exploring a lot in places I’ve never been, nonetheless, but I haven’t done the backpacker thing this time – hauling that ever-trusty bag of mine from place to place twice a week, collapsing on another hostel bed after beers with strangers. Nope, that ship sailed a while back, and I gladly accept it.

But, still yet to see much of the Norwegian wildnerness (having only touched on a small but very exquisite part of it so far), one might think I’d be disappointed in my travel choices this time round. That one being me.

But really, many of the most special times have come from the simple things: mundanities, oddities, dare I say, domesticities. And of course the timing of it all has been perfect. There isn’t an ounce of disappointment.

I would like to share some of the ‘bigger’ moments, but for now, my mind is all caught up and easing – like a sun-soaked afternoon – into the smaller moments of joy I’ve had recently – some of which I know I wouldn’t have experienced if I didn’t leave home. And so, perhaps in these moments I have found ‘holiday mode’ after all. The ability to let one’s guard down and make room for the simple pleasures that so often pass us by unnoticed.

Black coffee.

How wonderful it is to have time in the mornings to enjoy the coffee-making process. Three scoops of freshly-ground beans into the plunger, and then waiting for it to brew as you prepare breakfast – perhaps some soft-boiled eggs.

My ritual here has changed. No longer is the habit of buying an almond latte with work colleagues each morning a thing.

I have come to relish the stronger taste of homemade black coffee, and can’t imagine why a latte ever tasted so good. Of course, it’s partly the slow routine itself that I enjoy.

The night sky.

I can only speak for the summertime sky for now, but the colours tend to lull me into daydreams each night. Pinks, purples, oranges, blues, whipped with lashings of creamy cloud.

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Walking almost everywhere.

Exploring on foot is generally the way I enjoy new places best. And no matter where you’re walking to, or how far, it’s likely you’ll be graced with a park or two, teeming with summer flowers.

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Euro accents.

So gentle to the ear.

Different waters.

Diving into the Norwegian sea has made me nervous more than once. The colour is a deep, dark green, and so wide open, unable to see to the bottom, my mind conjures up images of non-existent sharks and whales right by the shoreline. I think back to my childhood, swimming in rivers and lakes and the ocean of the Northern Territory, and the warning to be cautious in open water because there may be crocodiles.

Nevertheless, each time I jump in it’s so refreshing if the day is warm, and I’ve been lucky to have many very warm days.

On my last morning in Oslo, I made a deal with myself to dive into the sea at Aker Brygge without hesitation, and to float for ten breaths without fearing the unknown below. This was undoubtedly a metaphor for my headpace in general. Staring into the noon sky, sharp breaths on account of the chill, I was able to succumb to the unknowns below, and the ones ahead of me.

Norwegian cheese (and the trusty slicer).

The mildness of the cheese, coupled with the ease of the slicer – delicious genius!

Reading and writing more.

I have ‘having more time’ to thank for these pleasures. Often made even more delectable under the shade of a tree, or by a window with golden afternoon light and a cup of chai.

And then, in the many pauses or times of solitude I’ve had…

…like those times brewing coffee, wandering to an undiscovered location, or in between devouring scrumptious passages of a book, there is the soft, steady realisation that I love someone who loves me in return.

Or the slow understanding that Oslo feels like a place I could (and would like to) call home for a while.

And the clarity of mind and body that one has (often all too briefly) to comfortably exist all at once in the present; emboldened and most certainly alive.

More bliss and jitters: starting fresh | Norway

Quitting my job and moving to the other side of the world is already opening my eyes to many new traditions and ways of living, but more than that, it’s showing me a thing or two about myself.

I’m not very good at doing nothing – relaxing or taking a break because I can and have afforded myself the time to do so. I tend only to have alone time or rest when I feel exhausted. This is not ideal.

It’s been one week since I’ve been in Norway and among all the things I’ve experienced – beautiful walks with stunning views, carefree conversations in the sunshine with strangers, grand buildings, intimacy after such a long time apart – one of the overriding thoughts I’ve had is that “I’m not being very productive, I’m not doing anything of value.”

But first, here’s some things I’m loving about Norway so far:

  • The greenery, obviously. Norwegians have an abundance of leafy, parky, forest-y goodness in all directions. Aside from the fresh spring air that fills you up and the crunching of twigs beneath your feet, I love the relationship Norwegians have to nature. They respect it in a way I don’t feel we do back in Australia (don’t get me wrong, we love the outdoors too). But we have so many rules about how, when and where we can engage with it – and that’s often at a price. Here, the rule of thumb is, camp anywhere you like freely (unless it’s private property), light a campfire, embrace the evening sky and heck, bring your animals too. Soak it all in…but just leave it as you came. Makes sense.
  • The park is a beach. It’s quite a spectacle when the sun is out, to see countless half-naked people take to any patch of sun to bake for (possibly) hours and hours. Norwegian sun doesn’t have the same searing, fiery, will-burn-you-in-20 quality as Queensland sun, and after long, dark winters, it’s the norm to strip to your underwear or pull up / down clothing wherever you can to get that warm goodness on your body. I’ve embraced this one quite naturally of course.
  • Salmon, and all foods involving it. I don’t know, it just tastes better.
  • The language. I’m yet to grasp it well at all, but it sure sounds lovely and quite upbeat. Yesterday I ordered a falafel in part-Norsk-part-English. “Kan jeg har en falafel i pita, please”. I tried and will keep doing so.
  • The fashion. So much chill. So much loose, long, cosy fabric and natural materials that look effortless and just downright cool. And generally with sneakers – no matter what, it goes with sneakers. I like this a lot and no longer care for sandals, huh! (Although, sadly, I do want Birkies again and won’t be buying them here as they come in around $200 AUD for some reason).
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Sognsvann lake, Oslo.

So, on that thought of lack of value, lack of substance…on the contrary to the above, it’s not just in the sense of ‘work’, but in terms of exploring (sounds silly, right). I’m rushing myself, planning weeks ahead, even though I’ve saved and prepared for a time where I don’t need to do this; where I can step out into the day without a plan, void of routine. I’ve been worrying about making friends, about spending too much money, about a bunch of upcoming unknowns.

I’m baffled that I feel this way so suddenly. You could argue it’s quite normal given the recent changes in my life, but I can’t say I saw it coming.

It’s quite funny that we can crave something new or different, yet when we finally allow ourselves to get there, we often feel frozen by the same old expectations that kept us right where we were – money, certainty, security.

So if you’re about to embark on a big journey away from home, some long-term travel, or a leap of faith of sorts, I guess it’s worth reminding yourself that you might be faced with the urge to turn around and go back to safety.

But I’ve got a hunch this will all simmer down – so remember that too. Remind yourself that you’ve arrived where you are because you wanted it, because you need it. And most of all, because it’s the right time.

I was reading the ever-insightful-at-the-right-moment Clarissa Pinkola Estés in St. Hanshaugen park yesterday, about taking the time to do what it is you feel called to do, no excuses…

“…we all have favourite methods of talking ourselves out of taking the time to go home; yet when we retrieve our instinctive and wildish cycles, we are under a psychic obligation to arrange our lives so that we can live them more and more in accordance. Arguments about the rightness versus the wrongness of leave-taking in order to return home are useless. The simple truth is that when it’s time, it’s time.”